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Showing posts with label womanhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label womanhood. Show all posts

Saturday, June 8, 2013

A Woman is: Of A Quiet Spirit

Take the test if you are of a "quiet spirit" as in 1 Peter 3:4.  This character quality is related to a husband/wife relationship.  We can also be quiet outside and angrily loud in our hearts.  Here is example of what I mean shared by generation cedar:

You are walking through your house (bedroom, living room..), and your husband’s clothes and shoes are, let's just say, "misplaced"–a usual scene. Do you:

1.  Throw them all in a corner and “show him” what happens if he doesn’t pick up after himself?

2.  Pick them up grumbling as you put them away?

3.  Dwell on all the things he does for you that he doesn’t have to, and consider it a blessing to be able to serve him in such a small way? Proceed to fold/hang his clean clothes as neatly as possible for an “extra blessing”?

I know, we’ve all reacted the wrong way. I have many times.  The grumbling begins and I confess that I dwell on number 3 and gladly pick up my husbands shoes and clothes!    The same applies to chores I detest like washing dishes.  There was a time that I liked, or didn't mind, washing dishes.  But now with no dishwasher and or regular sink.  I find it a little "challenge".  I thank God I don't have to gather water from the river, well, and that I have hot water.  I thank God that I have a family that I love and uses these dishes.  I thank God for the laundry I fold with my daughters because they are for the precious family He has given me to love.

This quiet spirit will actually make us beautiful. That's right! more than make up and a stylish up-do.  The Bible says that it is an ornament.  A beautiful wife makes a husband happy and thus a happy marriage.  I bet you haven't heard this formula in the secular advises for a happy marriage.  We can be by God's grace a beautiful ornament for our  homes.

 

 

The Woman's Place

From Ladies Against Feminism, a timely word from R. J. Rushdoony

We talk a lot on LAF about the "family economy" and how it eliminates the whole mythical "work-family balance" that causes eruptions in the blogosphere every time it is raised. Family is work, and what takes place within the family unit is far more than washing dishes and making beds. Those are normal routines of any daily life. The heart of the family is really and truly economic in every sense of the word. When the whole family is involved in work (whether it's a home-based business, a ministry, home education, hospitality and charity, community service, etc.), its members grow together in amazing ways and become more involved in one another's lives, thoughts, and dreams than if each member of the family goes in a different direction each morning to different locations with differing priorities and goals. Today, this is a radical way to approach life, but our ancestors prior to the Industrial Revolution lived it, breathed it, and built nations upon it. We can, too. What could be more empowering, freeing, or exciting? Enjoy the article!]

“The Woman’s Place” by R.J. Rushdoony

The Biblical doctrine of woman…reveals her as one crowned with authority in her “subjection” or subordination, and clearly a helper of the closest possible rank to God’s appointed vice-regent over creation. This is no small responsibility, nor is it a picture of a patient Griselda. Theologians have all too often pointed to Eve as the one who led Adam into sin while forgetting to note that her God-given position was such that counsel was her normal duty, although in this case it was clearly evil counsel….

It is a common illusion that in man’s primitive, evolutionary past, women were the merest slaves, used at will by primitive brutes. Not only is this evolutionary myth without foundation, but in every known society, the position of women, as measured in terms of the men and the society, has been a notable one. The idea that women have ever submitted to being mere slaves is itself an absurd notion. Women have been women in every age.

In a study of an exceedingly [so-called] backward society, the natives of Australia, Phyllis Kaberry has shown the importance and status of women to be a considerable one. [1]



Few things have depressed women more than the Enlightenment, which turned woman into an ornament and a helpless creature. Unless of the lower class, where work was mandatory, the “privileged” woman was a useless, ornamental person, with almost no rights. This had not been previously true. In 17th-century England, women were often in business, were highly competent managers, and were involved in the shipping trade, as insurance brokers, manufacturers and the like.

 
Up to the eighteenth century women usually figured in business as partners with their husbands, and not in inferior capacities. They often took full charge during prolonged absences of their mates. In some instances, where they were the brighter of the pair, they ran the show. [2]



A legal “revolution” brought about the diminished status of women; “the all too familiar view of women suddenly emerging in the nineteenth century from a long historical night or to a sunlit plain is completely wrong.” [3] A knowledge of early American history makes clear the high responsibilities of the woman; New England sailing men could travel on two and three year voyages knowing that all business at home could be ably discharged by their wives.

 

The Age of Reason saw man as reason incarnate, and woman as emotion and will, and therefore inferior. The thesis of the Age of Reason has been that the government of all things should be committed to reason. The Age of Reason opposed the Age of Faith self-consciously. Religion was deemed to be woman’s business, and, the more the Enlightenment spread, the more church life came to be the domain of women and children. The more pronounced therefore the triumph of the Age of Reason in any culture, the more reduced the role of women became. Just as religion came to be regarded as a useless but sometimes charming ornament, so too women were similarly regarded.



These ideas moved into the United States through the influence of Sir William Blackstone on law, who in turn was influenced by England’s Chief Justice Edward Coke, a calculating opportunist. As a result, his law books of the first half of the 19th century showed woman in a diminished role. Three examples of this are revealing:
Walkers’ Introduction to American Law: The legal theory is, marriage makes the husband and wife one person, and that person is the husband. There is scarcely a legal act of any description that she is competent to perform…. In Ohio, but hardly anywhere else, is she allowed to make a will, if happily she has anything to dispose of.

Roper’s Law of Husband and Wife: It is not generally known, that whenever a woman has accepted an offer of marriage, all she has, or expects to have, becomes virtually the property of the man thus accepted as a husband: and no gift or deed executed by her between the period of acceptance and the marriage is held to be valid; for were she permitted to give away or otherwise settle her property, he might be disappointed in the wealth he looked to in making the offer.

Wharton’s Laws: The wife is only the servant of the husband. [4]

There is an extremely significant clause in Roper’s statement: “It is not generally known….” The full implications of the legal revolution were not generally known. Unfortunately, they did come to be generally supported, by men. Even more unfortunately, the churches very commonly supported this legal revolution by a one-sided and twisted reading of Scripture. The attitude of men generally was that women were better off being left on a pedestal of uselessness. At a women’s rights conference, one speaker answered these statements, Sojourner Truth, a tall, colored woman, prominent in anti-slavery circles and herself a former slave in New York state. She was 82 years of age, had a back scarred from whippings, could neither read nor write, but had “intelligence and common sense.” She answered the pedestal advocates powerfully and directly, speaking to the male hecklers in the audience:
Wall, chilern, whan dar is so much racket dar must be somethin’ out of kilter. I tink dat ‘twixt de niggers of de Souf and de womin at de Norf, all talkin’ ’bout rights, de white men will be in a fix pretty soon. But what’s all dis here talkin’ ’bout? Dat man ober dar say dat womin needs to be helped into carriages, and lifted ober ditches, and to hab de best place everywhar. Nobody eber helps me into carriages, or ober mud-puddles, or gibs me any best place! And a’n't I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm!… I have ploughed and planted, gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And a’n't I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man — when I could get it 00 and bear de lash as well! And a’n't I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen ‘em mos’ all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother’s grief, none but Jesus heard me! And a’n't I a woman? Den dat little man in black dar, he say womin can’t have as much rights as men, ’cause Christ wan’t a woman! Whar did your Christ come from?… Whar did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothin’ to do wid Him. ‘Bleeged to ye for hearin’ me, and now ole Sojourner han’t got nothin’ more to say. [5]

The tragedy of the women’s rights movement was that, although it had serious wrongs to correct, it added to the problem, and here the resistance of man was in as large a measure responsible. Instead of restoring women to their rightful place of authority beside man, women’s rights became feminism: it put women in competition with men. It led to the masculinization of women and the feminization of men, to the unhappiness of both. Not surprisingly, in March 1969, Paris couturier Pierre Cardin took a logical step in his menswear collection show: “the first garment displayed was a sleeveless jumper designed to be worn over high vinyl boots. In other words, a dress.” [6]

Thus, the Age of Reason brought in an irrational supremacy for men and has led to the war of the sexes. As a result, the laws today work, not to establish godly order, but to favor one sex or another. The laws of Texas reflect the older discrimination against women; the laws of some states (such as California) show a discrimination in favor of women.



To return to the Biblical doctrine, a wife is her husband’s help-meet. Since Eve was created from Adam and is Adam’s reflected image of God, she was of Adam and an image of Adam as well, his “counterpart….” The Biblical doctrine shows us the wife as the competent manager who is able to take over all business affairs if needed, so that her husband can assume public office as a civil magistrate; in the words of Proverbs 31:10-31, he can sit “in the gates,” that is, preside as a ruler or judge. Let us examine the women of Proverbs 31:10-31, whose “price is far above rubies.” Several things are clearly in evidence:

 

  1. Her husband can trust her moral, commercial, and religious integrity and competence (vss. 11, 12, 29-31).

  2. She not only manges her household competently, but she can also manage a business with ability (vss. 13-19, 24-25). She can buy and sell like a good merchant and manage a vineyard like an experienced farmer.

  3. She is good to her family, and good to the poor and the needy (vss. 20-22).

  4. Very important, “She openeth her mouth with wisdom: and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (vs. 26). The useless woman of the Age of Reason, and the useless socialite or jet set woman of today who is a show-piece and a luxury, can and does speak lightly, and as a trifler, because she is a trifle. The godly woman, however, has “in her tongue the law of kindness.” People, men and women, who are not triflers avoid trifling and cheap, malicious talk. Loose talk is the luxury of irresponsibility.

  5. She does not eat “the bread of idleness” (vs. 27); i.e., the godly woman is not a mere luxury and pretty decoration. She more than earns her keep.

  6. “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (vs. 28).


Obviously, such a woman is very different from the pretty doll of the Age of Reason, and the highly competitive masculinized woman of the 20th century who is out to prove that she is as good as any man, if not better. A Biblical faith will not regard woman as any less rational or intelligent than man; her reason is normally more practically and personally oriented in terms of her calling as a woman, but she is not less intelligent for that.

Another note is added by King Lemuel in his description of the virtuous woman:

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who reveres the LORD will be praised” (vs. 30, Berkeley Version).



Nothing derogatory towards physical beauty is here intended, and, elsewhere in Scripture, especially in the Song of Solomon, it is highly appreciated. The point here is that, in relation to the basic qualities of a true and capable help-meet, beauty is a transient virtue, and clever, charming ways are deceitful and have no value in the working relationships of marriage.

 

Important as the role of a woman is as mother, Scripture presents her essentially as a wife, i.e., a help-meet. The reference is therefore not primarily to children but to the Kingdom of God and man’s calling therein. Man and wife together are in the covenant called to subdue the earth and exercise dominion over it…. Certainly, the command to “increase an multiply” is very important, but a marriage does not cease to exist if it be childless…. God himself defined Eve’s basic function as help-meet, important as motherhood is, it cannot take priority over God’s own declaration.

Endnotes:

 

1. Phyllis M. Kaberry, Aboriginal Woman: Sacred and Profane (London: Routledge and Kegan Paul, 1939).

2. Ferdinand Lundberg and Marynia F. Farnham, M.D., Modern Woman, The Lost Sex (New York: Harper, 1947), p. 130.

3. Ibid., p. 421.

4. Charles Neilson Gattey The Bloomer Girls (New York: Coward-McCann, 1968), p. 21.

5. Ibid., p. 105 f.

6. Time, April 18, 1969, p. 96.

7. Ibid., p. 213.

 

 

(Excerpted from Institutes of Biblical Law: Vol. I)
 

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

A Woman Is: Gentle

“They call woman sometimes, in thoughtless flattery, an angel, but here an angel in sober truth she is, a messenger sent by God to assuage the sorrows of humanity. The worn traveler who has come through the desert with his life and nothing more; the warrior faint and bleeding from the battle; the distressed of every age and country-long instinctively for this Heaven-provided help. Deep in the sufferer’s nature, in the hour of his need, springs the desire to feel a woman’s hand binding his wound or wiping his brow-to hear soft words dropping from a woman’s lips….Woman was needed in Eden; how much more in this thorny world outside! Physically, the vessel is weak, but in that very weakness her great strength lies. If knowledge is power in department, gentleness is power in woman’s.” From The Family by J.R. Miller. again a book I like to reread because I get convicted and inspired to be the woman God has called us to be.

We are commanded by God to be of a "gentle and quiet spirit".   This inward behavior is not easy to cultivate.  In fact, it is hard, very hard and impossible without the Holy Spirit's help.  A gentle woman is a strong woman.  It is easy and natural to be loud and boisterous.  It takes character and self control to be of a quiet spirit.   It is easy to be sloppy, and careless.  It takes patience and love to be gentle.

Too often our culture has looked down on the "gentle and quiet spirit" in a woman because it seems as a sign of weakness.  Therefore, Christian woman think they have to be loud to be heard and noticed and have a manly tomboish disposition to be strong.  Not so, it speaks the opposite, insecurity and weak spirit with no self-control.

Our families and the world need our gentle touch in their hurting lives.  Our nursing hands will bring healing to the broken hearts around us.  Let us stop and be transformed into women of a "gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God" 1 Peter 3:4

I invite anyone who wants to participate in this topic chain about "A Woman is..."  You will pick a word about what a woman is and write a short post about it.  I will review it and post it.  This is an exiting time we live in when we have the opportunity to restore the real meaning of Biblical Womanhood.  You can be a part of this ministry.  Send me a message or leave a comment.

 

 

Friday, February 22, 2013

True Femininity

 

There is an idea that being feminine is all about soft velvet hands thanks to a high end hand lotion.  On top of that, you may add the long fake nails--are those things still around?-- and make up galore.   Or, many would resort to flowery wall paper, frills all around the house, pink carpet and doors.  I am serious, I have been in houses like these.  But is that truly being a feminine woman.

A housewife may refrain from doing any "heavy duty" work that's to be done around the house.  I know some wives who won't take the trash out or wash the car because, "that's my husband's job", they would say.  Others say, "it's your turn to change the baby", "give me a break".  I have also met others who make their husbands cook for them.   I've even heard women making their poor husbands who come home from a stressful day at work take over the baby and change diapers.  A patient, loving Dad and husband would comply willingly to all these requests thinking it is only his fair share.

Since my husband has had a home business for a few years now.  Women tell me, "Oh, that's nice, he helps you with the kids and around the house."  Well, actually, No.  He doesn't help me.  I help him!  This involves everything, from cooking, to teaching the children, to keeping the home.  This is his family I have been called to help him educate, raise, train, and feed.

I certainly appreciate when my husband helps me willingly and very naturally, but don't expect him to.  With our four children, my husband is not hesitant to help feed one mouth when I'm feeding another for example.  I am learning to be careful that I help him more than he helps me.  When he is home, I want it to be a pleasant atmosphere of rest, peace and joy.  Especially, as men carry the  responsibility of guiding and sustaining the family.  I have seen the burden and I am glad I am not in his shoes. Thus, I'm extra careful he is not burdened by the mundaness of the home.  I want home to be inspiring, good food, worship, joyful children, loving wife.  I try to learn how to fix things around the home the way he fixes things, so we can spend more time together.

Women in the past worked the fields, washed in the rivers, made many things from scratch and loved their husbands and children.  Many of them hugged and caressed their loved ones with hard working rough hands full of love.  That is being feminine: helping our husbands in whatever he needs us to do to carry out God's call on his life.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

The First Blast of the Trumpet Against the Monstrous Regiment of Women

Feminist, feminism, womanhoodA fascinating documentary on the effects of feminism on our society...

Watch this trailer:



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In their documentary,  The Monstrous Regiment of Women, Colin and Emily Gunn have produced an incredible, well-researched, articulate, and powerful expose’ of feminism, its agenda, and its far-reaching, destructive influence on society. They do not just dwell on the negative, however, but give hope by standing firmly on God’s Holy Word and revealing His high esteem of, and plan for, women.

The Gunns do a masterful job of contrasting the ugly truth behind feminism and the havoc it wreaks, with the truth of Biblical womanhood and the joy and beauty that comes from living a life according to the standards set forth in Scripture. The stark difference between feminism (truly another word for self-worship) and Biblical womanhood is stunning.

The cast includes many godly, intelligent, and influential women who are outspoken defenders of Biblical womanhood and lovely examples of the truth of Scripture and lives lived in joyful obedience to the Lord.

Although we were fairly familiar with feminism, its history and agenda, we had our eyes opened all over again and learned even more. We were appalled at the deliberate strategies, carefully planned efforts, and absolute, complete selfishness of this movement.

We would highly recommend this film to every Christian. I would especially encourage fellow believers who are critical of the film (especially those who consider themselves Christan feminists or egalitarians) to prayerfully and carefully watch it with a willingness to truly view it through the lens of Scripture. You might be very surprised at what you find. While you might not agree with all the feminist agendas (and might be appalled at much of it), you may discover that egalitarianism bears many similarities in a diluted form. It is always profitable to re-examine one’s beliefs in the light of Scripture.

When one begins to understand the huge role feminism has played in seeking to destroy the traditional, Biblical family unit, homemakers, manhood, parental authority, morality, marriage, the innocence of children, and – most horrifying of all – children themselves, one realizes that “monstrous” is an excellent and accurate description of this group and its reign of terror.

[Note: One caveat: Take the Gunns at their word of warning at the beginning of the film and do not allow your younger children to view it. (I would keep the film on a high shelf.) There is heartbreaking footage of aborted babies (including video footage) that would be far too much for children to handle. I could not watch it myself. What I did see left me freshly reeling and grieved to the core over the horror of abortion. That one scene best sums up the monstrosities of the feminist movement. This would be an excellent film for crisis pregnancy centers to have on hand.