Courtship Questions

Great courtship questions:

When a young man and woman enter into courtship with their parents blessings and much prayer. They are trying to really get to know the other person to know if he/she will be their life partner. Here are some great questions to ask during this crucial time. Thanks to Ben and Audri who, now married, asked the following:

Questions:

• Would you be willing to die for Christ? If you're not dying daily, how can you be so sure you would then?


• What breaks your heart? What delights your innermost heart?


• Who are your disciples?


• Who are your closest friends?


• When did you really start to seek the Lord?


• When did you start to obey the Word because it was the Word?


• What do you believe about Salvation?


• When did [fruit of the Spirit x] start appearing in your life?


• What is a besetting sin? What are yours?


• What do you believe about sin? What do you believe about Rom 6 & 7?


• What do you think about your family? Are you good friends? How is sibling ____ doing?


• What does theology mean? Just lists of doctrines?


• How do you get doctrine? How do you determine right doctrine?


• What is your attitude towards historically held positions?


• How big is your vision for your disciple-making influence?


• What are your main messages?


• Are you pursuing and involving yourself in fruitful projects that advance/build the kingdom?


• Are you interested in/focused on continual spiritual growth - in yourself, your wife, and your family?


• What is your heart towards the lost soul and what do you believe your duty to God is regarding that soul?


• What do you believe are non-negotiable elements of a Christ-honoring marriage?


• What do you believe are non-negotiable elements of a Christ-honoring family?


• What are things you see as God's blessings? Do you desire and cherish these things?


• What are the primary events or situations in your life that have defined who you are today--the most formulating experiences and periods of your life?


• What have been the hardest things you have ever had to work through? The hardest things you have ever done?


• Who have been the main disciplers in your life and the people who have impacted and colored your life the most? As a child, adult--whenever.


• Who were your role models and heroes? For what reasons?


• You are the result of the influence of which people?


• Which women/men do you admire the most and want to be like? Why? In which ways?


• Which qualities and personality traits do you see in other women/men that you desire to have yourself?


• What personality traits and/or strengths do you see in women/men you know that you would desire for your wife/husband to possess?